As I approach final exams this week, I’ve been thinking back to three years ago, when my life changed forever, on December 17th, 2012.
At the time, I was seventeen and in my senior year of high school. I was excelling academically, and people told me I’d have a promising career. I was popular with lots of friends. I felt such a sense of freedom in being an “adult” by learning to drive. I thought the possibilities for my future were endless.
But in an afternoon, my whole world collapsed.
One Saturday at the end of November, out of nowhere, I became convinced I’d committed an unforgivable sin. Suddenly, blasphemous intrusive thoughts constantly filled my mind, and I was consumed with trying to “cancel them out” with silent mental rituals. If I didn’t, I might go to Hell. Overnight, my OCD transformed from mild to an extreme case—though I was still undiagnosed. Little did I know, it was the beginning of a three-year PANS exacerbation.
After that day, my life went from being wonderful to being a living Hell.
Sometimes, I realized how irrational my obsessions were. I would know I was a Christian, and I found it unbelievable to think that a loving God would throw me into Hell over some upsetting thoughts. Other times, I spent every waking moment trying to stop the intrusive thoughts, in constant terror that I was damned and beyond hope.
Sadly, it wasn’t the first time I’d endured this torment. Six years earlier, my OCD had abruptly started in the same way, and since then, it had come and gone. From the time I was eleven, blasphemous intrusive thoughts happened throughout each day, but I eventually learned to pay them no attention. I never told anyone. But suddenly, in 2012, the thoughts took over my life again and couldn’t be ignored, and I felt like they would throw me off the face of the earth at any moment.
Everything came to a head the weekend before my final exams. I couldn’t study, because the thoughts were constant, as were my futile attempts to stop or cancel them. I couldn’t write anything without checking and rechecking to be sure something didn’t have a blasphemous double-meaning. I couldn’t say certain words at all (like “bad” or “evil”), because I feared they would cause another blasphemous thought. It felt like there was a knife lodged into my conscience, tearing down to the core of who I was, and with every thought, it only cut deeper.
On December 17th, after three weeks of mental and spiritual agony, I’d reached the end of my rope. I saw I had to do something besides keep trying to cancel the thoughts, because the torture was only worsening. I stepped back and began to wonder if maybe, just maybe, I had a mental disorder causing it all. Maybe I wasn’t eternally doomed. Maybe none of it was my fault. And then I remembered a Reader’s Digest article from that March which mentioned OCD involved repetitive, unwanted thoughts.
After a Google search and two minutes on the OCD Wikipedia page, I knew.
It’s impossible to describe the hodgepodge of emotions in that moment on December 17th… I was so relieved to discover that my misery had a name—and a hope of ending. I was comforted to realize I wasn’t alone. I was shocked to find out I’d had a serious mental disorder for all those years. I was terrified, because I knew without a doubt that I finally had to speak up and get help. But most of all, I was hopeful, because I knew life could get better.
I wish I could say that everything got easier after that day, but because my family couldn’t convince local doctors to treat me for PANS (which we began to suspect as the underlying cause), December 17th was only the beginning of my fight against various debilitating neurological symptoms that would soon come.
Three years later, it’s been an incredibly long road to get to the freedom I have now (and I’m still fighting in some ways). I’ve endured months of Exposure-Response Prevention therapy, two IVIG’s, tonsillectomy, lots of antibiotics and other medicines, and drastic lifestyle changes, but PANS no longer runs my life—nor does OCD.
As December 17th comes and goes this week, I can’t help but be grateful for the day, because my discovery and my parent’s research on OCD that followed is what ultimately led to my PANS diagnosis—and eventual recovery.
But more so, December 17th now makes me question… What about all the other people who have OCD but are too scared and confused to get help? How many more cases of PANS will go undiagnosed for eight years because people conceal their OCD so well? My situation was not unique, so I believe more awareness for OCD and PANS among parents, psychologists, doctors, and even children, will bring December 17th faster for more people.